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Breaking good

A visual map to understand intergenerational suffering.

Tanmoy Goswami
Welcome to newsletter #5 of the parenting and mental health series. Today's edition is lighter on words than usual. Treat it as a visual guide, if you will, to explore a silent and painful truth that connects many of us: intergenerational suffering. It is okay if you don't completely relate to this truth - pain is not a competition. If my work has added value to your life, do support me by clicking one of the buttons below. Thank you.

Thanks for all the love to last week's edition on memory, pain, food, and parenting. One bit in particular appears to have struck a chord with many of you:

"In our mythology, pleasure is the demon that waylays family members and turns them into individuals.... Pleasure is rupture. Owning your pleasure is the ultimate sign that you are moving on from history."

Yeshim Iqbal, research scientist at NYU Steinhardt and a longtime supporter of Sanity, wrote to me: "Stunning. The truth of it is making me shivery. Never thought about it that way before."

Your responses made me think more deeply about the relationship between one's personal and family history and the kind of parents they become. Particularly, the idea of intergenerational trauma has been on my mind a lot.

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