Thanks for all the love to last week's edition on memory, pain, food, and parenting. One bit in particular appears to have struck a chord with many of you:
"In our mythology, pleasure is the demon that waylays family members and turns them into individuals.... Pleasure is rupture. Owning your pleasure is the ultimate sign that you are moving on from history."
Yeshim Iqbal, research scientist at NYU Steinhardt and a longtime supporter of Sanity, wrote to me: "Stunning. The truth of it is making me shivery. Never thought about it that way before."
Your responses made me think more deeply about the relationship between one's personal and family history and the kind of parents they become. Particularly, the idea of intergenerational trauma has been on my mind a lot.