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🗝️ Sanity Classics: What's the protocol for sharing a therapist with friends?

Unpacking a tricky question.

Tanmoy Goswami
Sanity is currently on a season break. I will announce the next season soon. These breaks are a great opportunity to revisit some of the most popular ideas and questions I have had a chance to explore with my readers over the past three years. One question that has been on my mind concerns recommending or sharing a therapist with friends. The world of therapy runs on word-of-mouth referrals. Every month, I get multiple requests for therapist contacts from friends or friends of friends. I too have leaned on my personal network when looking for therapists for myself. Accessing therapy is an incredible privilege, and sharing that privilege with people you care about makes sense. But this isn't as straightforward an exercise as it seems. Today's edition explains why. At the end of the piece, I have four questions for you. Do share your thoughts with me, and I will publish them in a future edition. Hopefully, together we can co-create some kind of protocol that will help others decide how to handle this complicated question.

I don't have a story for you today. Instead, I have a question.

It's a question that's as personal as it is universal.

It's a moral and ethical question but also a political and economic one.

It's a question that speaks to our most private choices as individuals while also nudging us to think about one of the most serious demand-supply imbalances in our world, and its implications for our closest relationships.

The question is this:

Do you, and should you, share your therapist with your friends?

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